What is Love all about?

So…my baby is in Love and she have received her first V-Day flowers.

I remembered when she was in Secondary 1, she asked ‘Mummy, when did you start dating?” Hmm…and I said “Sweetie, you do not need to know when did I started dating. You can decide for Yourself when do you want to start dating, BUT that’s provided You cannot wait for things to happen sooner than it is. Because we all start by holding hands, hugging, kissing, getting into bed and the next thing is You got pregnant and the Boy is Nowhere to be Found!” Of course, she found out from other sources when did I started dating! 😑

So…I kept telling her not to fret about relationship matters as boys her age now does not suit her, she will meet boys who are more matured as she grows older, boys who are looking for GF at her age, are all not serious about relationship, and the list went on…. She, for some reason, whom I’m always thankful, is a very sensible child said “Mummy, I can’t be spending time looking for the Perfect one, I need to learn from Experience.”

Indeed…we all have a ‘Prince Charming image’ in our mind, tall, handsome, charming, smart, humorous, and the list goes on… All these is Disney’s fault!   Reality… is far from the list!

When I first met my then boyfriend, I literally told him, “Hey, you are not my Type, please go away!’  😂 Then, when we started dating, our Love was fraught with lots of challenges, even when we got married, I regretted and said, literally to his face again, “ If I were to get a 2^nd chance, I wouldn’t want to be married!”  Today, after 19 years of marriage, I am Thankful for him, who never gave up and his Steadfast Love… 😍

True Love is love that causes us that wrenching pain that hurts and yet bring us joy.  So…in the journey ahead, I do hope my baby and certainly, You find the Courage to Love, to Give and to Learn.  It is never the Destination that matters, it is Who you meet along the Journey that Makes the Difference!  Happy V-Day!  💗

The Hunger for Love is much more difficult to Remove

than the hunger for Bread.

– Mother Teresa

 

Tuesdays with Morrie

The more that You Read, the more things You will know.
The more that You learn, the more places You’ll go.
– Dr. Seuss

In 2016, I resolved to do more reading, but only managed 9 books and 8 for 2017!

I remember the books that I used to read while back in school days, were from Danielle Steel & Sidney Sheldon, not that I was a great fan but my sister was. And mind you, those books’ were comparative to today’s Harry Porter thickness!  So much for the patience of reading right?!

And through the years…I realised that I haven’t been reading much at all. So these days, gone are the fiction novels. 

Happy International Woman’s Day!

 

Do You remember…the Journey you had since you were a baby to the Woman You are today?

Just yesterday, someone sent me a YouTube video of Yang Pei, a young lady who lost her arms at the age of 8. She…overcome the challenges and today have learnt to make a living thru selling her cross stitched work in China.

At the age of 13, Bethany Hamilton lost her left arm to a shark attack while surfing. She… fought adversity and today is still surfing, found love and is happily married.

Closer to home, I learned the story of Jie Er who is 8 years old and was diagnosed with Leukaemia last year. She…and her family is still fighting the challenges that Life has thrown at them.

Learning from all these inspiring stories, I reflected on mine.

At age of 10, when I lost my Dad, the World Crashed down on Me.  Mum, who was a housewife was overwhelmed with grief and at the same time needed to learn to take over the role of the sole breadwinner.  My older sister, found work as a flight stewardess and was home at timing different from us, so we seldom spent time together.

Most of the time…I was home alone, eating my meals alone, so alone that I often cried myself to sleep.  Slowly, I learnt that there are people out there who are in situation 10 times worse than mine, so why should I wallow in self-pity?  I picked myself up and built a Fortress around Me. I grew up angsty, negative and always ready to snap at someone!   I used to lament, WHY am I a Woman, absolutely hated the feeling of being so Emotional.  Being a Man would have been easier, I think?

We, Women…go thru struggle, BIG or small and we sometimes carry too much and refuse to Let Go. We tend to think too much, worry too much and lose ourselves in the Journey. 

I applaud the Courage, the Strength that Yang Pei, Bethany and Jie Er found thru their adversity.  

Learning from them, We…Women Can Be So Much More! So take a breather when We need, Keep Counting Our Blessing, Keep Smiling and Let’s Keep Each Other Going!! 

Become the Change, You want to see…
Instead of belittling, Uplift
Instead of demolishing, Rebuild
Instead of misleading, Light the Way so that all of US can Stand on Higher ground.                                                        –      Oprah Winfrey

 

 

1st Post…is for Dad and all Dads out there!

This is for my Dad whom I never got the opportunity to know better…
and for all Dads out there!

At the age of 10 when I was still trying to make sense of my life, Dad passed on just so suddenly…

I remembered…how He would take me aside and talk to me gently saying How are You going to survive when You can’t even spell words correctly and intend to leave this Home because I fought with my Sister!

I remembered…how He carried me to the basin so that I would brush my teeth instead of pretending to Sleep and not brush my teeth!

I remembered…how He pretended to be harsh with me and wanted to cane me as I refused to eat a Banana and I was more willing to be cane instead!

I remembered…how He would kiss my cheek as he tucked me into bed and I would feel more ticklish instead of sleepy because of his moustachy kiss!

I remembered…how He would say to me, you need to travel to widen your horizon so to ignite my curiosity in learning!

I used to dwell a lot, thinking How my life would have been different if Dad was still around… thinking Why Life is so unfair, taking a Wonderful Dad away from me! I’ve forgotten the Love & Warmth he gave Me, the things He did for Me, the things He said to me…

Living in the past and unknowingly I built a Wall of Unhappiness around myself. I grow up full of Angst & Negativity and always ready to Snap at someone!

Today…I’ve learned much and am so Glad that I’ve knocked down my Wall of Unhappiness, learned to Let Go, Live in the Present and Look Forward to the Future with Positivity!

It has been said…Fathers, more than anyone else, set the course for a daughter’s life.
And I think this is so true…seeing this in my daughters with my husband for which I’m so Thankful for…

Say Hello is meant to Remember the Beautiful Memories which I will share with my Dad someday…